When I tell people of my next adventure, I am often asked, “What about Jill?” People are often concerned about how the distance will affect our marriage. Some are curious about how we weather the separation for such lengthy periods of time. I am continuously thankful for those who offer their love and support.
A career in wildlife
Truth is, a career in wildlife isn’t easy. The rewards are grand but we must be flexible and willing to travel. Early in our careers, we often seek temporary or seasonal employment to gain experience and bolster our skillset in a highly competitive field. If stability exists, it comes when we are more established in our careers. I often say that I live my life backwards; I should have finished school and engaged these temporary jobs some time ago – before I was married and owned a house and blah, blah, blah. That isn’t my life and shoulda-coulda doesn’t go too far. This is where I am now and I am conscious of the wonders of my adventure and the sacrifices that are made.
The alternative
What is the alternative? Shall I forgo my career, pursue an unfulfilling job, and pretend to be satisfied with my days or should Jill sacrifice her job and career to follow me as I pursue a temporary job? Neither of these scenarios is ideal nor will either help us grow as partners or individuals. One of us riding on the other’s coattails is not an option.
The mindset
Jill and I love each other and we enjoy each other’s company. We understand, however, that we are not only husband and wife but we are also individuals – project manager and aspiring wildlife biologist/ecologist. Our careers and dreams as individuals are just as important as our marriage. Communication is key as we journey through life together. We develop our life plan together. We live life at home and away, always striving towards our goals, and our love continues to grow. Sure, being apart sucks but we make it work!
I admire people who follow their dreams. Everyone is on a different path. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Thank you for the kind words! I agree that I don’t owe anyone an explanation; nonetheless, I find that my blog is an opportunity to show people what life is like in the field of wildlife and science.
Michael, I am so very proud of both you and Jill. You make it work, your way ànd you are both happy. In my book that’s all that matters. You have an unbelievable opportunity ahead of you,I’m so glad you get to chase your dream with the love and support of a terrific wife. If you look through history there are medical breakthroughs, and many, many other things I am way too tired to mention( Maryland and DE.this week) that would never hàve happened if p3ople didn’t make the exact decision you and Jill did.
Thanks for the love and support! We all have to find our own way and communication is key in whatever partnership, especially marriage. Often, couples who choose to focus on their aspirations instead of raising children are looked down upon. I’ve been told that I’m selfish and uncaring and that I would regret my decision as I grew older. Jill and I have invested a great amount of time and energy for the betterment of community and research. We find it very rewarding and we enjoy meeting like minded people and those who benefit along the way!